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Happy Day After Christmas

In reflectons on December 26, 2010 at 1:12 pm


I hope all is well and that everyone had a wonderful Christmas.  I had a nice holiday.  But, now I am exhausted and probably will not get dressed today.  Instead, I will stay in my comfy robe and do this and that around the house—nothing too strenuous.  It doesn’t get much better than that.


Unruly Teens Spoil Holiday Shopping

In reflectons on December 24, 2010 at 12:55 pm


Yesterday, I did some Christmas shopping with my husband.  Well, actually he had to run into the mall and get a gift card for his daughter.  So, I tagged along.   

I was totally disappointed as I was about to enter the mall—for privacy reasons, I won’t divulge the mall’s location.  As we headed for the entrance, we saw groups of teens walking out of the mall.  As we walked through the mall, we saw a pattern—groups of teens walking together, sometimes up to 10 deep.

It would be okay if most of them weren’t so loud and confrontational looking–with their pants sagging below the waist.  I even heard a lady at a cosmetic counter say, “They’re like a bunch of animals.”  I knew who she was talking about.  She was talking about the large groups of African-American teens who were roaming, aimlessly, around the mall. 

As an African-American, myself, I hate to see “my people” add fuel to the fire—add fuel to the fire of those common stereotypes.  Don’t they know what people are saying about them?  The sad part is that many of  them don’t seem to care.       

It’s not to say that white teens don’t act disruptively at times.  But, I’m concerned about “my” youngsters.  They don’t have the luxury of acting up in public.  In such situations, police have the luxury of shooting  first and asking questions later.         

But, I’m just tired of it…As a former teacher, I have seen the day-to-day disrespect that has been allowed—by parents, principals, etc.—to occur by “my” teens; I can’t relate to these types of youngsters, but I feel the need to claim them in some sort of way.       

When is enough, enough?  When will these youngsters understand that you have to act a certain way in order to be treated a certain way?  When will parents get the memo that it’s time to take back discipline of “our” children?  No, you don’t have to beat them, but you sure need to show them whose boss, from day one.

Also, in my city, the libraries have become the hang out spots for teens.  They congregate in the library, after school—being rude and making noise.  I’ve been in the library too many times when the police have had to intervene.  It’s simply an uncomfortable feeling to be around such behavior.

The library should be a peaceful place to read a book quietly.  The mall should be a relaxing place to shop and get a bite to eat with the family.  I’m angry that these places are being taken over by unruly kids.  It’s just not fair and shouldn’t be tolerated.  And, if something isn’t done, it’s just going to get worse.

Christmas Shopping is for the Birds.

In gratitude, reflectons on December 23, 2010 at 10:52 am


I will be glad when the holidays are over.  Don’t get me wrong, I love the holidays.  But,  I just hate the shopping and all the hustle and bustle.  Christmas has definitely become too commercial.  I always say I’m not doing any shopping and end up doing so anyway—giving feels good.

What makes shopping even less appealing is that I have a disorder—Cervical Dystonia—which causes lots of pain; currently, the pain and spasms are often lodged in my shoulder and back area.  So, that is what’s really making shopping not-so-fun.  But, at least my hubby usually comes with…Poor hubby.

I have two Godchildren who live in another state.  So, I tend to find online gifts and have them sent directly to their address.  So, after spending much time, unsuccessfully, searching the web for toys, I stumbled upon the eGift card option which is offered by Toys “R” Us.  Let’s just say, “God is good.”  This was such a convenient option!

The Godkids’ mother sent me an email saying, “I got your ecard 2day.  Thanks so much.  What a cool way 2 send a gift.  Thanks again.  I will call u soon.” 

The eGift card arrived in her box in less than 24 hours.  I was relieved that I could, so conveniently, cross two, little people off of the gift list.  And, for that, I am grateful.

My Mother-in-law is Awake and Feisty as Ever.

In gratitude, reflectons on December 23, 2010 at 10:11 am

My mother-in-law woke up from the induced coma…

My mother-in-law had been in an induced coma for several days.  She has so many life-threatening issues going on right now.  Thank God, she is now awake and feisty as ever. 

 I hope that she can get out of ICU, soon.  Trust me, it’s not a place you want to be.  As you walk through the unit, you see faces that start to look familiar—you can see patients in their beds due to the big, glass windows.  It’s sad—especially during the holidays—when you walk in the next day to find out that one of those patients has passed away. 

Since I’m so grateful about  my mom-in-law’s improvement, I don’t want to waste this post on being negative.  So, I’ll save it for a later post—about why it’s scary to have to be in the hospital in the first place. 

As a frequent patient [outpatient] myself, I have come to appreciate the incredible work that many doctors, nurses, and other supportive staff do on a daily basis. 

But, I have also come to distrust some things about the whole medical system as well.  And, seeing my mom-in-law in the hospital has only validated some of that mistrust and weariness.  But, like I said, perhaps I will share my views another time.

Anyway, I hope my mom-in-law continues to improve so that she can get out of there in one piece.  Amen.

I Am Grateful For…

In gratitude on December 20, 2010 at 8:13 pm

A friend of mine–she lives several hours away–told me that she was on that Royal Caribbean ship that got caught in the storm.  I knew she had gone on a vacation, but I didn’t realize what had happened to her ship.  Wow…I am so glad that she and her family are okay!

Down Home With the Neelys

In books, food on December 19, 2010 at 10:05 am


Yesterday, I copied lots of recipes onto, a site that allows me to save recipes into a private, online recipe box.  Neat!

I copied my favorite recipes from Down Home With The Neelys: A Southern Family Cookbook by Patrick (Pat) and Gina Neely.  While I am not an avid watcher of cooking shows, I do have my favorite cooking stars, and The Neelys, hosts of the Food Network series Down Home with the Neelys, are amongst my favorites—they’re just so darn cute.

Recently, I saw The Neelys on an airing of The Monique Show.  As usual, those two “lovebirds” were all touchy, feely, and flirty with each other. I just love the chemistry between Gina and Pat–and they can cook too!

An Attack On The Happy Meal…

In food, Health, reflectons on December 17, 2010 at 9:46 pm

When I first heard about McDonald’s being sued over The Happy Meal, I thought it was the most ridiculous thing I had heard in a long time.  The reason for my thoughts:

*Who did The Happy Meal ever hurt?

The meal of a burger, fry, and beverage–admittedly, not the healthiest meal–has brought joy to so many children over the years.  It’s something about getting that tiny, cheap toy which probably costs a few cents to manufacture. 

*Parents should be able to monitor what their children eat.

McDonald’s does not control what a child eats.  It is the parents’ responsibility to monitor their child’s diet.  The parent can “Just say no.” 

*I think it’s a bit hypocritical for the government to get involved in The Happy Meal controversy when there are pesticide laden fruits and hormone injected meats sitting right there in the grocery store up the street.

I shared my opinions with a good buddy of mine.  She, a mother of two toddlers, politely explained that there was more to it—McDonald’s commercials are all over children’s television programs. I don’t have small children.  So, I was oblivious to the fact that McDonald’s had been directly targeting the little buggers.

Okay, I get it…The kids are watching Saturday morning cartoons and a Happy Meal commercial pops up on the screen.  Then later that day, the kids command from the backseat, “Mommy, I want a Happy Meal.” 

So, maybe there can be some type of comprise.  Perhaps, McDonald’s can reduce the amount of commercials which directly influence children.  But, let’s not take away The Happy Meal…Everything in moderation.

I Am Grateful For…

In gratitude, reflectons on December 17, 2010 at 12:57 pm


A relative of mine has been very ill–with Diabetes, Hypothyroidism, swollen feet, etc.– for many years.  She has no medical insurance.   This past week, she became extremely ill and was hospitalized.  Unfortunately, it is presumed that she has a chronic form of Leukemia–the tests results are due back today.  Of course, we pray that it is not Leukemia.  But, I am grateful that she has been transferred to a top-notch hospital.  The doctors have run all types of tests and the hospital staff has been very kind.  I pray the blessings will keep coming and that she will continue to receive excellent medical care and treatment.

I Am Grateful For…

In gratitude, reflectons, Uncategorized on December 17, 2010 at 12:46 pm


Due to various, ongoing health issues,  I have a lot of medical bills.  I cringe each time I get a bill from the hospital where most of my doctors are located.  It’s always this huge, confusing bill.  So, I usually end up calling the billing department to help me clarify which items were covered by insurance, which items haven’t even been submitted to insurance for some reason, etc.  But, I am thankful on those days when the representative is very thorough, pleasant, and easy to understand.  Today, was one of those days. And, for that, I am grateful.

The Healthy, Hunger-Free Kids Act of 2010

In food, In the News on December 15, 2010 at 5:13 pm


The newly passed bill, The Healthy, Hunger-Free Kids Act of 2010 will increase the access of healthy, nutritional foods to students across the country.

This is a step in the right direction.  Healthier foods—more fruits, more vegetables, and less sugar—will mean less calories and more antioxidants.  This is especially important for students—many of whom don’t get well balanced meals at home—who come from low income homes.

Thumbs go way up for the passage of this bill.  We’d really be cooking with smoke if we could get to work on the issue of antibiotics and additives in the food—perhaps in due time.

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